tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post5371409884652411794..comments2024-03-28T21:18:22.958-04:00Comments on truth and beauty: Rough Day in the FieldsAlice Garbarini Hurleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00200746626686412315noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post-51693801629799408432019-02-28T14:01:15.246-05:002019-02-28T14:01:15.246-05:00Liz, I really appreciate your insights. Taking you...Liz, I really appreciate your insights. Taking your words to heart. XxooAlice Garbarini Hurleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00200746626686412315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post-90543166559369654442019-02-28T06:10:54.530-05:002019-02-28T06:10:54.530-05:00Ok, got that hand, giving you a squeeze. Good news...Ok, got that hand, giving you a squeeze. Good news, protecting yourself is a duty here, because she needs to know people can’t take it out on the world when they are mad. Don’t put yourself in the same category, she’s baiting you. You can apologize for anything mean you said, and you should, but that doesn’t let her off the hook. <br /><br />Has her therapist recommended an outlet? Can she punch a pillow when she’s mad? Go outside and scream? Break sticks? A mad journal with a lock where she can write down how she feels? Once you give her an acceptable outlet for her feelings, give her a consequence for a bad one like yelling at you - no play dates for a week or wash windows every day (as I have said before, for these energetic types, I like active rather than passive consequences). And you can remind her that helping her control her temper is part of you loving her, because you don’t want the world to do it by ways like kicking her off the gymnastics team.<br /><br />Anyway, feel free to ignore all of this, but this post reminds me of how exhausting adolescence is, and how horrible our wonderful children can be. Hang in there, Alice.<br />LizAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com