tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post7938207527996634858..comments2024-03-28T21:18:22.958-04:00Comments on truth and beauty: Tough Beauty, April 2, Part 2Alice Garbarini Hurleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00200746626686412315noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post-89080489367774154702019-04-03T10:20:26.117-04:002019-04-03T10:20:26.117-04:00Wow, Liz, between you and Kim, I have a lot to be ...Wow, Liz, between you and Kim, I have a lot to be accountable and grateful for. I mean that. I am often painfully honest in my posts and you and K keep me on the high road with your honest opinions. I do thank you. As my favorite yoga teacher says at the end of class, "Take a moment to thank anyone who has taught you, even if it was hard." When you said: There are deep waters ahead if P starts associating money and clothes with caring and self worth" that stopped me in my tracks. I do not want to create that kind of situation. Now, to some degree, I think many fifth grade girls are into their Adidas sneakers this year. Punchy's Mimi bought hers for her last spring. But I like that you and K are keeping me on my toes, my eye is keen now for avoiding a materialistic fiend in my mist. Dan and I surely do add nature, taking girls on hikes, to sky-high hawk watch, etc. Sunday, he drove to Central Park w P and two pals and spent nothing except for parking. [I stayed back to handle other things.] Sending love. Alice<br />I like what you said: "Think of your strengths - you give them love of nature and beauty and cooking and good times together, and you will super empower the girls if you can give them options for having those things without a lot of money. You have done a lot of the work, so yay!"Alice Garbarini Hurleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00200746626686412315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095391922604035629.post-68235954954130141822019-04-03T06:04:49.525-04:002019-04-03T06:04:49.525-04:00Wonderful reading about how you find the beauty in...Wonderful reading about how you find the beauty in your life. And you are very brave with your full accounting. I wouldn’t do it. <br /><br />Peter rarely buys anyone anything. It sounds bad, but he just is not a shopper. I did not mean to make materialistic fiends, but I am the one who buys stuff in general. And compared to my own pretty modest upbringing, the boys are the princes of Silver Spring. I unfairly get mad at them about it. Middle class boys of this millennia don’t have the same attitude to money as blue collar girls of the 70s, and that is it.<br /><br />Having said all that, there are deep waters ahead if P starts associating money and clothes with caring and self worth, or thinks every duty done results in reward. But you know that. And I totally get that parenting is exhausting and sometimes you will buy a smile and some peace. Been there, done that. But like I said and you know, not good for them. <br /><br />Think of your strengths - you give them love of nature and beauty and cooking and good times together, and you will super empower the girls if you can give them options for having those things without a lot of money. You have done a lot of the work, so yay!<br /><br />LizAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com