My friend taught me to “Rest to Succeed” in a workshop she led this winter. It was about goal-setting and tailored to each of our lists about what is important to us, what we value.
It seemed counterintuitive. How could I rest to succeed? Wasn’t I already napping enough, feeling flattened (and fattened) by life, finding that lifting a toothbrush or bar of soap was too much to manage?
But A. was right. For example, today I worked on an article assignment, called in an RX, updated my meds (and took them on time), sent a funny coffee text to Figgy, her BF, etc. I clipped some sweetly scented pink roses to bring inside.
While I ate lunch in the kitchen, I boiled some wilting rainbow carrots in the microwave to make banana carrot loaf cake later. It contains healthful ingredients. I would have whirred the raw carrots 🥕 in a food processor but I don’t have one, so will mash them instead. I don't have cream cheese on hand for the frosting so will skip it.
Work, do task, rest. The REST may be napping, playing Wordle, window-shopping or reading at my favorite sites (but not in an endless funnel of time). Remember, I'm being productive in between.
Some beloved window-shopping and writer's diversions listed here. Pls. note: My passions and pleasures often overlap with my work tasks and goals. I plan to send (more) article/essay pitches to The NY Times (3) and also have my eye on Vogue (5).
- Diptyque Paris. Started in Paris, obviously. Pronounced DIP-TEAK. A brand Sis and I met through Sniffapalooza and love.
- Sweet Laurel Bakery. Santa Monica, pretty in pink, fresh flowers on GF cakes. Laurel even shared a great recipe to make cleaning spray with water, vinegar and essential oil. I did. (She also showed a pink, of course, refillable glass spray bottle and when I asked, told me where to find it.) I came across Sweet Laurel during the dark pandemic and it lit my way with small orders winged to New Jersey, such as a beautiful scented candle in pink glass and a niche unsweetened dark chocolate bar in the loveliest pink floral packaging (both not available now).
- Vanessa Friedman fashion writing in The New York Times. Best, best, enough said.
- Net-A-Porter. Only for sales, dreams or maybe a trendy, mid-priced brand, like a SKIMS Fits Everybody Push-Up Bra in Cocoa (dark brown), on its way to me as I type. I will let you know if it fits everybody.
- Vogue. Proud subscriber, $15 a month but print issues in store cost A LOT. I plan to write for Vogue one day.
- Aerin. Estée Lauder's granddaughter, style icon, seems to have good heart.
- Jamagansett. Fresh fruit jams made with less sugar, from Amagansett in the Hamptons. Figgy went for a weekend there with her girlfriends this month and brought me a jar. Very pricey, very well-branded.
- Dr. Jill Biden (@DrBiden) on instagram. She demos her family's chicken parmigiana recipe. It looks simple and delicious. Will sub in eggplant for vegetarian Dan but plan to make the homemade sauce this eve.
Still a writer. Links to two May 2026 articles, one lifestyle and one more technical (neurology). Range of vocabulary from paint colors to feeding tubes. Stretching my skills. Here’s to us all moving on with life and using our individual voices. Rest to succeed, indeed.
JOUJOU RESTAURANT IN THE CITY BY THE FOG https://aspiremetro.com/joujou-san-francisco/?noamp=mobile
DECODING HOSPITAL DIETS FOR NEURO PATIENTS https://www.brainandlife.org/articles/hospital-diets-patients-neurological-diseases
This post has been updated and expanded since original posting on May 21.




I like the “rest to succeed” idea! The “pomodoro” technique was what I used at work, and still sometimes use. Especially when there is a task I’m avoiding. Basically, I would set a timer for 25 minutes, and then take a 5 minute break, repeat. It gets it name from the cute tomato-shaped kitchen timer the inventor used, and which he now sells. But I got an app to do the timing on my phone. My middle boy, the most ADHD one, used pomodoro sometimes at my urging, with some success.
ReplyDeleteStill a writer! I enjoy your work!
Xoxo, Nan
Nan, I love that! Thank you. Xo
ReplyDeleteVery funny, the bra that fits everybody. I mean, imagine. Please do report back! Glad you’ ve found your groove.
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Haha, right Liz? But unlike the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants, when a pair of consignment shop blue jeans magically fit all four girls, who had wildly different figures, this “Fits Everybody” bra comes in numerals and cup sizes from very small to 38DDD. I hope you’re good.
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