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Sunday, November 10, 2019

Short-Person Challenge

What if someone:
  • Gets dropped off to go into weekly 10:15 am CCD* class, a little late, 10:18 am.
  • And you trust her to walk in, snug in her nude-pink fuzzy hoodie [the same nude-pink color of the moment that her big sister, Figgy, loves, and in fact, you would like something that color, too]. Her friend is in the car, and you have to drop her at her home after their sleepover and then get to 10:30 Mass yourself. And Fuzzy Hoodie has indeed walked in alone before...
  • And then Fuzzy H. climbs back into the car, a back-seat prank, as you round the bend.
  • And you laugh a little and then say, Go, you must go to CCD now. You are 3 minutes late. I will be right back to go to Mass. And she walks toward the Catholic school, which is next to the Catholic church. And you drop off the nice friend and go back to church and then Fuzzy joins you near the end of Mass, sitting next to you in the pew, as the CCD kids are allowed to do. They can come over to Mass and join their families when class is over.
  • And she begs you to please, please borrow your classic Burberry plaid wool scarf and you finally relent. And she covers her head and hair with it, like a disguise, a babushka. And you know immediately that she has done something wrong at CCD and is trying to hide--from a teacher, a child, someone. And you know that lately, she has been saying, You can't make me go to CCD. I'm not Catholic. I'm Jewish. Which of course she is not, but two close friends are, and she even went to Hebrew school with them once.....
  • So you say to her after church, before you both go down to coffee hour and the bake sale for Haiti, Tell me what happened. It's not good to keep secrets inside. It will eat up your heart....
  • And she tells two fibs before getting to the truth. 1. I pulled the fire alarm. 2. I beat up a boy. and you can tell they are fibs and then, finally, the truth. 3I didn't go to my class and I walked around inside the school instead, and Mrs. S. [who is the good woman who runs the program] told me I had to go to class and that now every week you have to walk me up to class. And she asked if you were at Mass and I said I didn't know. And I don't want to go downstairs for donuts because Mrs. S. might be there. Please, Alice, I'm scared.
  • I'm glad you told me, you say. But I'm disappointed.
  • And then indeed Mrs. S. is at donuts & coffee, standing near the bright, Blue's Clues-blue frosted cupcakes on the bake sale table, and you talk about what happened and apologize and she says, What I'm really worried about is her safety. If she really doesn't want to be there, there's no use forcing her and you say, I'm not willing to give up yet. I know she believes in God. I mean I don't understand what the big deal is, why she can't go for one hour a week. And Mrs. S. agrees, One hour. Okay.
Dan and I were/are both very upset and disappointed.

Rough road.

Good night.

*Per Wikipedia: Confraternity of Christian Doctrine (CCD) is an association established in Rome in 1562 for the purpose of giving religious education. Its modern usage is a religious education program of the Roman Catholic Church, normally designed for children. In some parishes, CCD is called PSR, meaning Parish School of Religion.
+I went to Catholic elementary school, where we had religion classes. I went to public high school, so for one or two years of high school? I went to weekly evening CCD. Somebody jokingly called it Coffee Cake & Donuts.

TCOY
  1. Warm bath with Dr. Teal's salts.
  2. Walked Sug around block; pretty moon.
  3. Listening, praying, singing and being present at Mass.
  4. Nice long nap, while Dan supervised Punch's involved written science project.
  5. Roasted big pan of cauliflower florets.
  6. TODAY IS DAY 12 off refined sugar path. When I made the rosemary shortbread, I used very little [3 teaspoons] sugar. That's within my fence, so far at least. When grams of sugar per serving are about 4-8 or less, I generally say OK. I walked today's rough road without nibbling a single chocolate-chip cookie; or donut at coffee hour; or bowl of Ben & Jerry's nondairy ice cream from freezer. This is good. However, I did eat way too many of the Cheetos left from sleepover. Series of unfortunate events.
$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Kids' church bake sale for Haiti, 1/2 dozen excellent fresh bagels with container of cream cheese; big Granny Smith apple dunked by hand in caramel, chocolate and toppings; and container of tiny chocolate-chip cookies, plus $2 donation, $21. [Sweets went to Punch's room--if she doesn't want, she can throw out.]
  • Cornerstone Montclair, $14.90. Punch and I love this store. It's right across from our church and promotes an inclusive community for all.
TOTAL DAILY SPEND: $35.90.
RUNNING TOTAL FOR MONTH AS OF NOV. 10: $580.52.
AVG. DAILY SPEND: $58.05.

COMPARE TO 3 PRIOR MONTHS:

TOTAL SPEND FOR OCTOBER (31 DAYS): $2,495.36.🍎 ⬆️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $80.49.🍎 ⬆️
_____________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR SEPTEMBER (30 DAYS): $2,214.43.🍎⬇️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $73.81.🍎⬇️
_______________________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR AUGUST (31 DAYS): $2,895.06. ⬆️
AUGUST AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $93.39.  ⬆️





Saturday, November 9, 2019

Tired

TCOY
  1. Support group. Very supportive.
  2. Pumpkin latte, no refined sugar, yum....so good. So comforting on a chilly day.
  3. Candles burning in living room.
  4. I love baking. for sport and satisfaction, beauty , tradition, comfort and hipness. I made Melissa Clark's rosemary shortbread, using rosemary I grew and a mix of flours: rice flour [recommended in a vintage shortbread cookbook I have by a real Scottish woman; it even has a plaid cover, which I love], whole-wheat pastry flour and all-purpose. I used just 3 teaspoons of sugar. Then Melissa has a more elaborate recipe that calls for breaking up 4 oz. dark chocolate and scattering it over top of just-baked shortbread and putting it back in turned-off oven for 1-2 minutes, then spreading. I used a 2.8 oz. bar. Rosemary shortbread with dark chocolate...savory and rich.....
$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Joyist, large pumpkin latte, $8.
  • CVS, smallish can of Pringles, $1.49.
  • Kings, groceries again. Started out to get snacks [crunchy Cheetos and Pillsbury chocolate-chip cookie dough] for Punch and her friend, who is sleeping over. Then added melatonin for Punch [we ran out]; another Equal Exchange 80 percent dark chocolate bar; 2 boxes vegan "chicken" on bun sandwiches, sale; 4 big cans San Marzano tomatoes, on sale, $2.99 each; 3 hummus, sale; food bank donation at register, $2; pint half and half; huge head of cauliflower to roast tomorrow; Smithfield bacon, sale; jar minced garlic; quart of matzo ball soup with big pieces of chicken, for dinner one night, $79.76.
TOTAL DAILY SPEND: $89.25.
RUNNING TOTAL FOR MONTH AS OF NOV. 9: $544.62.
AVG. DAILY SPEND: $60.51.

COMPARE TO 3 PRIOR MONTHS:

TOTAL SPEND FOR OCTOBER (31 DAYS): $2,495.36.🍎 ⬆️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $80.49.🍎 ⬆️
_____________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR SEPTEMBER (30 DAYS): $2,214.43.🍎⬇️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $73.81.🍎⬇️
_______________________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR AUGUST (31 DAYS): $2,895.06. ⬆️
AUGUST AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $93.39.  ⬆️





Friday, November 8, 2019

TGIF

Tomorrow I can sleep late! Until about 8:15 am! Treat vs. 6 am!

Real breather this week with Dan having Punch in California....looks like they had a beautiful trip....so lovely....Monterey, biking by Golden Gate Bridge, visiting our niece Anna in San Francisco. Sea and nature and hotels! And friends and horses! Treat.


TCOY
  1. Walked 15 min. NYC.
  2. Baby spinach salad with lunch.
  3. Figgy and I had a cozy dinner, Japanese takeout and watching "13 Going on 30" until she left to see friends on campus. It was lovely to be with her.
  4. Ice water.
$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Cafeteria lunch, $8.50.
  • Kings, groceries: lb. Cabot butter, sale; vegan smoked Provolone cheese slices, sale; bag of clemettines; box of pasta, sale; 3.4 lbs. seasoned chicken pieces to roast; good rye bread; whole-wheat English muffins, sale; 2 gallons distilled water for darn CPAP machine; 3 wet dog food; 2 good PB, sale; box low-sugar Enlightened ice cream bars; bar dark Equal Exchange chocolate, excellent; Boca burgers; large container raisins; vegan mac [pictured below]; Annie's brand mac + cheese; dried figs, sale; large EVOO, sale; Ben & Jerry's nondairy ice cream, sale; Cabot light Cheddar, sale; $94.32.  
    I bought the one on the left at Kings for Figgy.
  • Japanese dinner for two, $40.74.
TOTAL DAILY SPEND: $143.56.
NOW ADDING ALL OF NOVEMBER/ONGOING MONTHLY SPEND AS OF NOV. 8: $455.37.
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $56.92.


COMPARE TO 3 PRIOR MONTHS:

TOTAL SPEND FOR OCTOBER (31 DAYS): $2,495.36.🍎 ⬆️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $80.49.🍎 ⬆️
_____________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR SEPTEMBER (30 DAYS): $2,214.43.🍎⬇️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $73.81.🍎⬇️
_______________________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR AUGUST (31 DAYS): $2,895.06. ⬆️
AUGUST AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $93.39.  ⬆️





Thursday, November 7, 2019

Can’t Comment, So Frustrating

Can’t post comments on my blog or other ones....bummer. Thank you for your comments, Liz, Nan, Kim and Eileen. Tried what Liz said, still won’t work. Will persist....
TCOY
  1. Walked 40 min NYC.
  2. Water.
  3. Talked to Moey + Pats.
 $ MONEY SOENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Grand Central Market, good salted butter,  $5.49.
  • Ditto, banana, 68 cents.
  • Dinner, hot turkey sandwich, $8.92.
Will crunch numbers soon.
Gnite.

Wednesday, November 6, 2019

Good Night, Sis

With Punch In California with Dan, I came to Sis’s for an overnight after work. I’m catching the train to Grand Central in the morning for work again.

I love the elegance of the old train station--the chandeliers; the zodiac blue-sky ceiling; the clock at the info booth. 

Sis took me to the Greenwich Water Club for dinner and it was delicious. Now Buttercup is snuggled up beside me.

TCOY

  1. Walked 40 min.
  2. Baby spinach with lunch.
  3. Berries at Water Club, and beets.
  4. Ice water.

$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET

  • Cafeteria lunch, $9.
  • Pretty little bouquet of pink sweetheart roses to bring Sis, $9.80.
  • Fritos, unhealthy choice, $2.59.

Will crunch numbers tomorrow. 

Good night to you.



Tuesday, November 5, 2019

Pearl [not Ruby] Tuesday

Wearing my swingy faux-pearl mala beads with equally swingy leather tassel made a few years ago by talented Mary Marino. And a black, bell-sleeve Julie Brown dress I bought at STITCH a few years back, plus patterned Wolford tights I snagged on sale. I feel feminine--and trendy.

Home-based today.

I went to Punchy's IEP* meeting at 8:45....the first meeting for middle school. Key. I liked talking to the team, the people who see our Punch in school, when she is away from home and out in the world. They already know about her love for pets. Of course they do. [Every other Friday, therapy dogs come in....the teacher, who was very nice, said she loves it. Yup. So grateful they have that. And so grateful for the education and support Punch has been getting in the public school system. I hope it is enough, that she is getting what she needs. We try hard at home, and so does her Mimi.]

Then I went to Jefferson's Cafe, 88 Maple Avenue, iconic I think, on the south end of town, close to the school....I didn't know it existed until this year, and I've lived in Montclair since 1991. I also walked by on Back-to-School Night, in the rain.

The menu offers waffles with white chicken and waffles with dark chicken, plus grits and biscuits, fried catfish etc. I had a biscuit with turkey sausage and cheese....the oven treasure was warm and tender....very, very good. The perfect handheld vessel for melty Cheddar and a slim sausage patty. Some biscuits can be hard, thick, dry or rubbery. This one tasted like it was made from an old family recipe. It was on the wide side, and not too lofty. I got some cheese grits to go, also excellent.

I was the only white person I saw there. A woman in blue nursing scrubs/uniform got something to go; a man and woman arrived as I left, after parking their new SUV; two older gentlemen held the door for me on the way in; two women sat together; one young woman sat alone, in a winter hat with big pompom and sweat pants with a glittery word on the seat.

Oh, so that's how it feels, I thought, when a black person walks into a white restaurant. But am I wrong?

I am a white person and as such, in this town and at this time, feel entitled to go pretty much anywhere I choose. Is that how it feels for a black person entering a lily-white restaurant?

I think of the days of Rosa Parks. For starters, the black person would not have been served. And look--two black men welcomed me, holding the door open so I could enter. Back in the day, would a black person only be in a white restaurant if cooking, serving or washing dishes, or was that off-limits, too? Indignity. Shame on our forebears. This morning, I took zero risk to take a comfortable seat at Jefferson's Cafe. I felt I deserved to be there, in fact. I am a foodie and simply followed my nose.

I am going back, want to bring Punch and Nikki some time.

TCOY
  1. Paid $600 of our $810 heating oil bill--enough to get a delivery, because the tank gauge is hovering on empty, and schedule our annual oil burner tuneup. I'm owed money for writing, but it can take a while. Thank you, Judy at oil company.
  2. Short walk with Sug.
  3. Private Benjamin appt. Helpful. Good insights.
  4. Finally picked up my pink bike from Punchy's friend's house. She biked over there a couple of weeks ago and then it was too dark to bike back. I rolled it into back seat of our blue Toyota. Happy to have it back.
$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Jefferson's Cafe, down-home breakfast [see above], about $8.25 plus tip, $10.
  • Kings, 2 rolls Viva,  Newman's Own dog treats to support hips and joints, and Mast Brothers dark chocolate bar on sale for $2.99, $14.
  • Marcel Bakery & Kitchen, saw Rach for first time in weeks. This should also be under TCOY both for friendship and nourishing food. Daily roasted veggies over hummus, delicious, with tip, $15.
TOTAL DAILY SPEND: $39.
ONGOING MONTHLY SPEND AS OF NOV. 5: $275.33.
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $55.06.


COMPARE TO 3 PRIOR MONTHS:

TOTAL SPEND FOR OCTOBER (31 DAYS): $2,495.36.🍎 ⬆️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $80.49.🍎 ⬆️
_____________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR SEPTEMBER (30 DAYS): $2,214.43.🍎⬇️
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $73.81.🍎⬇️
_______________________________________________________________________________
TOTAL SPEND FOR AUGUST (31 DAYS): $2,895.06. ⬆️
AUGUST AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $93.39.  ⬆️

*Per Google: The IEP, Individualized Education Program, is a written document that's developed for each public school child who is eligible for special education. The IEP is created through a team effort and reviewed at least once a year. Before an IEP can be written, your child must be eligible for special education. 

Monday, November 4, 2019

Up in the Air

Dan flew with Punchy to San Francisco after school today! He is going on a NY Times Magazine assignment--still exciting, even though he's done a few--so his flight and hotel is covered. We paid for Punchy's. She has off from school Thursday and Friday for annual NJ Teachers' Convention; we asked permission to let her miss Tuesday and Wednesday. They return Saturday morning.

Punch will accompany Dan on a couple of interviews, especially the one for which he is meeting the subjects and their family for a pizza dinner out one night.

They will stay one night with Dan's college friend and his wife at their house in Santa Cruz...visit with his friend, John, who has horses, which are Punchy's catnip....and see our niece, Anna, the tiny brunette I fell in love with when dating Dan. She is a talented artist who lives in SF and works for Shutterfly as a designer. [My Maine nieces, Leah, Mariah and Anna, were flower girls in our wedding, wearing hot-pink gowns that Moey's Aunt Ronnie sewed.]

The travelers should be touching down about 1:30 am Eastern time...I love San Francisco, haven't been back since I was in my twenties, on a girls' trip with Moey, Debbie and Annie. I have returned to California at least four times since [once as a chaperone for Seventeen Magazine music contest winners*], but not to San Francisco. Would like to see it again. Happy that they will.

TCOY
  1. Walked 1 hour and 10 min in NYC.
$ MONEY SPENT OUT OF POCKET
  • Duane Reade, large, tall bottle of water, $3.11.
  • MetroCard refill for subway, $20.
  • Drugstore on First Avenue, popped in for Kleenex, bought an 8-pack of pocket packs [$8] and a bottle of Caswell-Massey Sweet Almond Oil for body and bath, $32.25.
  • Le Pain Quotidien, tall hot tea, with tip, $4. [I don't have to give a dollar tip. Will cut down to 50 cents if I remember to bring quarters.]
  • Cafeteria lunch and small snack cup of mixed nuts, $8.01.
  • Grand Central Market, with Dan and Punch away, stopped to get groceries. Pasta entree, quart Hudson Valley Fresh milk, pint Hudson Valley Fresh half and half, grilled artichokes, container shaved Parmigiano-Reggiano, seeded baguette, $31.
  • Hotel Chocolat Inc. on Lexington Ave. across from Grand Central, one 85-percent dark chocolate bar. Sorry to say, not my favorite. But Sis likes the milk chocolate from this British chocolatier and cocoa grower. With tax, $7.63.
TOTAL DAILY SPEND: $106.
ONGOING SPEND FOR MONTH AS OF NOV. 4: [including all November days now]: $236.33.
AVERAGE DAILY SPEND: $59.08.

Good night to you.

Remembering my California trips:

*1. Girls trip to SF, then we drove to LA. We saw the Redwoods, went to Carmel, and much more. The beauty of the drive along the coast: staggering.
2. Seventeen music contest chaperone, 1988. [Prize was trip to California, with busy itinerary.]
3. Drove across America with Dan in summer 1990, when he wrote 60-Second Novels en route.
4. Flew out to San Diego with Dan.
5. Flew out to California for work a few years ago and rented a car, drove to Santa Monica, Malibu, etc. after meeting clients.